Ok, I am going to admit something I usually don’t talk about. I am a fat girl, pleasantly plump, rubenesque, overweight whatever you want to call it. I never talk about it, because to me it is a moot point, I am who I am and if you don’t like it your fault. I have been a fat girl since I was 7 or so. That is 21 years for those who don’t know my age. I am Pretty, I am happy, I am healthy (No High BP, No diabetes, No High cholesterol, basically no weight related anythings), I am active, I am fun, I lead the same life as a person half my size. I always have. I have always been popular always had friends, had boyfriends, went to parties, etc. I feel bad for the people who have been discriminated against and treated badly because of how they look. I read this article and it pissed me off. Especially this part:
“Appearance and size seem related to getting and keeping both job and salary,” she said.
Prejudice began early in life for obese females, with children as young as three shunning their obese peers, Heitmann said.
Family, teachers and healthcare professionals were also more biased against obese girls and women than boys and men, she said.
“Obese women are deprived of friendships, intimate relationships, social interactions, education, income and respect,” Heitmann said.
I have a job, I have a career, I have had a job since I was 18 in a competitive field, I have worked for 4 or 5 companies and have always gotten multiple job offers when I was looking for a job. So I have never experienced a Prejudice!
I have never had an issue with Family or Teachers or doctors.
I surely have never been deprived of friendships, I have always had friends and made friends easily, I have never been deprived of intimate relationships, I have had Boyfriends and sex(LOL), I have been on dates, I have been hit on by strangers, asked to dance in bars and clubs, had long term relationships.
As far as social interactions, I love people, I can talk to strangers and they all talk back, so no problem there.
I went to school, got good grades, went to college got a certificate for Early Childhood Development, never got a lower grade because I was fat.
I have a good income, I have always had a good income, always had a good job.
As for respect, I think I have respect and if I don’t I can’t tell!
I think it has to do with who you are, if you have self respect! I probally have too much…LOL Pete tells me all the time I am full of myself. This usually follows me telling him that I am beautiful! My Parents always told me and my sister how pretty and smart we are and I guess we believed them. When I went to school I had friends, that’s what you do, you go to school and have friends. I applied for jobs and got jobs cause that’s what you do. I never looked at myself as different and therefore was never treated that way! Never made fun of, or ridiculed. Always had “cool” clothes and shoes and friends and fit in. I do feel bad for the people who look at being different so negatively! I think you are who you are, take it or leave it!