This is a topic that I’ve been hunted by for a while now. Ever since Pete and I got engaged, really. I would like someone else’s input besides my co-workers. The question that’s been the source of so much pondering? What to call my in-laws now that we are married.
Lots of people call each other’s parents “Mom” and “Dad”. That is how they refer to themselves. It’s something that lots of people are very comfortable with, and have no problems doing it. Me? I’m more uncomfortable with the idea that I’m calling someone who didn’t raise me by the names I give my parents. My Mom isn’t here, I can not even think of calling someone else “Mom”. That is a sacred name and I can’t use it on someone else. No matter how great they are.
Up until this point, I’ve avoided calling Pete’s parents anything. I call them excuse me. As in “Excuse me, would you like more Tea?” “Excuse me, can you hand me the remote”. Pete has told me to call them by their first names, but I haven’t done that. I was not raised to call adults by their first names. Sure I am an adult, but I am not old. So Miss Eve and Mr. Ray seem like a good idea, right……wrong. In NJ it is odd to do that. No one does it so his parents laugh at it and think it is weird. I feel weird calling them Mr. & Mrs. since I am too Mrs. Reese. I think of them as Mama Reese and P. Daddy. That is how they are in my cell phone, tha tis what I call them while talking about them to Pete but I don’t know if I feel comfortable calling them that to their faces. I can’t wait til we have kids so I can just call them Grampa and Grandma.
Answer me this, – What do you call your in-laws?